Choosing Grace Over Retaliation

by Yvette van Niekerk 1 Thessalonians 5: 15 (NLT) “See that no one pays back evil for evil, but always try to do good to each other and all people.”

It's easy to scoff at this verse, especially when we've been wronged. The temptation to retaliate, to escalate the conflict, can be overpowering. How dare they treat me this way? It's maddening, especially when they justify their actions. As a Christian, I find myself at a crossroads. I must resist the urge to repay evil with evil. Instead, I'm called to be gracious and forgiving. Yet, at this moment, I'm struggling. It's tempting to think that 2000 years ago, the Apostle Paul couldn't fathom our modern complexities. But human nature remains constant. The challenge lies in shifting my perspective to see others through God's eyes. I've heard that I have the power to change my behaviour, but goodness, it's a formidable task. The person is a constant presence, a daily wellspring of frustration. So, where do I begin this journey of renewing my mind? Proverbs 4: 7-9 provides a beacon: “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour when thou dost embrace her. She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee.” I'll admit, I'm not the wisest person on this earth. That's why I need to immerse myself in God's Word. It's not a casual endeavour; it demands my full attention. I must study day and night until something shifts within me. I must become unreasonably committed to God's Word. It's a discipline I'm struggling to instil, but it's the key to renewing my mind. How do I stay committed? How do I become unreasonably committed to God and His Word? Prayer: Father God, I long to saturate myself with Your Word. I confess my weakness, my lack of insight and wisdom. Please, when my old self surfaces, yearning for retribution, grant me the strength to choose grace. Grant me wisdom for each new day. In Jesus' name, I pray. Amen.