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Can your marriage survive a lying tongue?





I think lying is one of the most destructive things a person can do to me. In my first marriage, my ex-husband lied to me on a continual basis, to the extent that I actually cannot imagine him any other way but as a liar. 

Proverbs (AMP) 19, verses 5, says, "A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will not escape."

I also believe when someone lies to me, they think I must be an idiot. I am immediately angry and ready for a fight. 

Colossians (AMP) 3 verses nine says, "Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the old self with its evil practices,"

My first marriage didn't last, and there were too many lies and lots of abuse. I decided when I married my second husband that one thing; maybe two are never to fail me. He had to be honest and open-minded towards me. I also need to trust him because, without trust, I cannot see my way of going forward in a lying marriage.  

I have a stable marriage, and we do have our ups and downs, like most married couples. I am more outgoing than my husband, and I enjoy being creative. He is quieter and reserved. Now I am in a personal relationship with the Lord, and I feel very strongly about God. Why I feel so strongly about lying is that it will remove me from the presence of God.

Psalm 101 verses 7 "He who practices deceit will not dwell in my house; He who tells lies and half-truths will not continue [to remain] in my presence."

So the lies and half-truths are also very destructive; you cannot be telling me something I know isn't quite true. I am learning to share my feelings and thoughts with my husband. I honestly believe this is an ongoing situation. I don't always know what to say, and I don't want to hurt him. So now, I am praying that the Lord will give me discernment and help me communicate with my husband.

Prayer

Heavenly Father, You have my life in Your hands and understand me better than others. Lord, today, I pray that You will help me discern what I need to communicate with my husband. I want to always be honest and let him know how I really feel. Help me to verbalize my feelings, and I have been as honest as I can with my past life. In the name of Jesus Christ. Amen

Yvette van Niekerk

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